WHAT DO I NEED TO KNOW BEFORE COMING TO RELATIONSHIP THERAPY?
WHAT SORT OF PROBLEMS CAN BE DISCUESSED IN RELATIONSHIP THERAPY?
Relationship therapy is a form of counselling that focuses on the dynamic between people. In therapy, it is the relationship that becomes the client and it is the relationship as a whole that will be the focus of the work. You and your partner will discuss and set goals you aim to achieve. We will explore the dynamics between you and try to understand how you relate to each other.
IS RELATIONSHIP THERAPY SUITABLE FOR US?
There are moments in life when we wonder if we are with the right person. Communication between the couple is difficult and it seems like even the smallest misunderstanding can escalate into a huge problem. Suddenly, you find yourself repeating the same patterns over and over again; the intimacy suffers, and you drift apart. In times like these, it can be challenging to find a common language, be supportive or try to solve your problems. Couples therapy provides you with a non-judgemental space. Here, you can think about your relationship, rebuild the trust between you and your partner and try to work on improving your communication and coping with everyday issues.
IS RELATIONSHIP THERAPY ONLY FOR COUPLES?
Gone are the days when relationship therapy is known as marriage counselling. Our services are inclusive to all people regardless of their sex, gender, gender identity or sexual orientation. Relationship therapy is therefore suitable to those whose relationships fit with traditional forms but also polygamous or open relationships amongst others.
It’s also important to remember that you don’t ned to be in relationship to make use of relationship therapy. Perhaps your marriage has just ended or perhaps you are looking for a partner. We can help you to think about how you relate to others and what your expectations are in regards to the relationship you wish to create.
WHAT WILL HAPPEN IN THE FIRST SESSION?
The first session of therapy, be it relationships or not, can be a source of anxiety. We understand this and therefore want to reassure you that the therapist is there to help and facilitate, not to judge. A history of the relationship will be taken and questions about family backgrounds will be asked. This is to allow the therapist to understand the context of you and your partner’s historic family systems and how that might be influencing your current relationship. An exploration of the present issues will also be taken and then an agreement on what the aims will be. Your therapist will work creatively and collectively in how to think about the problems you are facing and how to improve how you relate to each other.
WHAT IF MY PARTNER DOES NOT WANT TO ATTEND?
This is not uncommon, and you are more than welcome to come on your own. We can talk and think about the best way to move forward. It would be preferable to work on any relationship issues with both partners being present. However, the therapist is always “relationship minded” regardless of which of you attends the session.
IS PSYCHOSEXUAL THERAPY FOR ME?
For many people, a health relationship will include a healthy sex life. And although sex is a crucial part of many people’s lives, most of us find it extremely difficult to talk about it. During psychosexual therapy you will be given the space and opportunity to explore not only sex but intimacy in its fuller sense.
It is very important to explore both: joys and challenges regarding one’s intimacy. Together, in a comforting environment, we will discuss factors that might be stopping you from having a truly fulfilling sexual life.